Randall....you are sooooooooo right on! Being critiqued can be tough....but outside critiquing is absolutely necessary if a writer wants to improve his/her craft. And, if you learn the lesson, your writing is better forever.. One of my most embarrassing moments occurred with my first attempt at writing fiction. It was during my second session at the critique group, where a member held up my manuscript for all to see. He had circled every adverb in the manuscript (and there were LOTS). I hadn't "seen" them until they were pointed out, and I was mortified. But, from that, I learned to TELL the story rather than describe it....and that adverbs can mean lazy writing!
Criticism is lifeblood to a writer and anyone else who's willing to be critiqued. However, the person handing out the criticism needs to do it with a positivity about it as well. If all you do is slam somebody, giving no redeeming praise or comfort, what have you done, but shot somebody down and that is the mark of a factious, insecure person. So...happy critiquing, but make sure and say something positive as well. After being in a critique group for over 14 years, being humble, and yet spot on with your critique is the way to go.
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